10 characteristics of people who consistently build strong professional and personal relationships
There’s something for all of us to learn for networking, work and our personal relationships. Here’s a summary, check out the full post on LinkedIn.
Genuinely charming people:
- They willingly show a little vulnerability.
They’re complimentary, impressed. They’re even willing to admit a weakness or a failure.
- They show they’re genuinely glad to meet you.
They let you know they are paying attention to you.
- They search for agreement instead of contradiction.
They look for points of agreement. Then share a different point of view appropriately.
- They (selectively) use the power of touch.
Touch can influence behavior, increase the chances of compliance, make the person doing the touching seem more attractive and friendly.
- They often dine out on their foibles.
When you genuinely own your foibles, people don’t laugh at you. They laugh with you. And they realize it’s OK to let down their own guards and meet you at a genuine level.
- They’re masters of social Jiu-Jitsu.
Some people have a knack for getting you to talk openly yourself. They ask open-ended questions. They sincerely want to know what you think, and that makes you open up to a surprising degree.
- They always pass the “server test.”
You know how you go out to eat with someone and they’re nice to you… yet dismissive of the server? That’s the server test.
- They’re great with names.
Charming people remember names and even small details, often to a surprising degree
- They never name drop.
Charming people may know cool people… but they don’t talk about it. And that only adds to their charm.
- They always let you talk more.
And that makes you feel important.
Because you are.